Monday, August 22, 2005

Back with no vengeance

[SIDENOTE]Semeni ladies and gents- Nimerudi. Actually, back at the office this morning trying to catch up. Had a fabulous time with my old man and my bro which I'll be tabling pretty soon. I also have pics to boot - not too many though so wipe that drool off thy face, my camera played tricks on me.

Came across this interesting letter this morning i'd like to share with you all. Some have probably seen it but what the heck?

Check this out,

White women's opinion of black women & a brother's
response. Please take a moment and read this. Pretty
Deep! Thumbs up to this black man..
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine
by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!


Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us
Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks,Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...

I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA


Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted
White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black
men dated white women was because they were considered easy.

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait,
brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears,and overall weaknesses,
have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, BlairUnderwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white
women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!

It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them:
being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power,love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates
and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to
darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and
dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that
can be a good wife and mother to my children.

Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty


At 9:55 AM, Blogger Milonare said...

Nice post!!

Let a broda tell them how it is! I couldn't agree more!

At 11:06 AM, Blogger Irena said...

Kudos to that post!!! Successful black men are not looking harder enuough for strong, successful nd well mannered women , they are there:-)

At 2:31 AM, Blogger Guessaurus said...

@Magaidi - I have seen this before, and it never ceases to amaze me. Kudos to that Strong Black Man - we need that kind around more!

Thanks for putting this out!

At 6:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Can i get an AMEN in here!!!!!!

Preach on brother!! Preach on

At 8:13 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

this is hot!
Makes me proud to be a mother, daugter and African woman.

At 9:29 AM, Blogger Nakeel said...

This says it all tell it out again and again...
The black woman taught them and till today she still teaches them..
Strong post keep it up.. am proud.....

At 2:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

that just left me utterly speechless.made me really proud to be a black woman and just lifted my spirits.
thank you magaidi for posting that

At 4:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have to say... you have answerd all the questions I ever had about the brothers who go out with white girls.
Today is a very good day! I feel great knowing that we have brothers like you who belive in us black women, who are looking beyond the ovious. Thanks again my black knight.

At 10:25 AM, Anonymous Chrissy said...

I am so proud and so in love! that was beautiful!! I agree with everything he said we def need more men like him! Makes me even more proud to be a sista!

At 11:25 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i read both the white womans comment and yours .... I am a 27 w f in the pittsburgh area my thought on the issue are like this i have a child to a white man and i am now engaged to a very well educated black man who is a police officer i feel that we are all equal and everyone should be able to have who and what they prefer theres good and bad, black and white women both however from a white womens point of view i met this man and things worked out and we clicked but i cannot stand these white girls that want to go out with any brotha that will take them just to have a black man??!! thats ridiculous i myself wouldnt want a no good white man as well as a black man I think theres a self esteem problem with women these days any women thats gonna give it up without wasting any time leaves nothing desirable for the relationship....

At 2:46 PM, Blogger Susan said...

First of all, let me say thank you for posting both responses by doing so we as readers get a glimps into the minds of a white woman who dates black and a black man who is all about the QUEEN!! I just want to say that I personally as a Black Woman do not have anything against black men dating white women, but don't use me, my race, and gender as a scape goat for why you date white women. It sickens me when I hear that a black man won't date a black woman because she's this and she's that, BULL#$%^. I am not trying to hear that at all.

At 5:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love the fact that there are still some "successful" black men out there that aren't afraid of what society thinks of them. That are willing to stand up for us Black women. You keep on doing what your doing brother, and I'm sure, if you haven't found her yet, you'll find a sister waiting for you with open arms. To miss "Disgusted White Girl" your something else. I'm not going to even start on you and give you the satisfactory that you want, all I have to say is that I hope you, and your future husband know, when you're rubbing black womens name in the dirt, you're talking about your future mother-in-law and the rest of his family. Just something to think about


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